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December 1, 2020December 18, 2020

The Christmas Chronicles of 2020

An artistic photograph of the children by water, chronicling Christmas 2020.

Preparing for the holidays this year… Seems weird. Simply put, it doesn’t seem like the holidays right now because it doesn’t feel like the holidays. But it’s December already! It’s as if time stood still, but at the same time, sped along quicker than usual. Or maybe it’s just me. So much has happened, but it still feels like the beginning of the year. I’m in such a conflicted mental space. Oh, the Christmas Chronicles of 2020.

Chronicles:
the name of two books of the Bible, recording the history of Israel and Judah until the return from Exile
a factual written account of important or historical events in the order of their occurrence.
a work of fiction or nonfiction that describes a particular series of events
Oxford Dictionaries

Children walking along a path near water in Fall, just before Christmas.

I, like so many others, was so optimistic about this year. I had so many plans–big plans– that I couldn’t wait for things to come to fruition. For the first time ever, I created my Vision Blist! In case you’re wondering, a Vision Blist is a Vision Board in list form. Yes. I made that up. Don’t judge me. I made the most of my time. Plus, I printed it in color and it’s posted in my room… so it worked for me. *insert eyeroll directed towards anyone laughing at me*

Enters Shock and Denial

And then the Coronavirus hit, leaving life as we know it forever-altered. How in 2020 does something like this happen– and on such a monstrous scale, no less– without anyone in leadership having any idea what to do and how we got to this place? It was as if March was the beginning of the end. Many have lost their lives and/or their livelihoods. And that hurts.

Personally, work dried up almost instantaneously. Who could have fathomed what was to come? My mom’s Godmother contracted the virus from a caretaker at her living facility. She passed away. Two of my mom’s cousins contracted COVID-19, and they, too, passed away. I went months without seeing my parents and grandmother. Never in my life, have I ever been away from them for that long, considering they are living. Still, life was happening. Overwhelming amounts of stress and sadness were amassing in the interim, and I know that I was not alone in those feelings.

Christmas Chronicle #1: The show must go on!

We were blessed that my husband never had to stop working, but the pressure on me felt insurmountable! I had my children all day with no breaks. In the beginning, I wasn’t even taking my children to the grocery store. I made them masks, but still, I was too afraid of them getting sick. I was virtually schooling my daughter, who was displaying the affects of pandemic life in other ways. She was having trouble sleeping nights, so she’s still up at 4am, frequently waking me for some reason or another. My son, on the other hand, is an early bird and is up for 6am daily, like clockwork. Once work started to pick back up, there was no downtime, no time for self-care, barely enough time to think…

At some point, I had to demand a minute–even if that meant some things were being left behind. It was the acceptance of where we were (are). It finally hit me that this was our new normal. Now, the task was figuring out how to make this new lifestyle manageable–even enjoyable?

Christmas Chronicle #2: Be grateful for everything!

Take it all in stride and look for the positive in things. That’s the message I began to convey to myself. Even in spite of the Coronavirus, the holidays can be a tough season for a lot of people. In fact, I lost a first cousin just days ago. And though the celebrations are meant to be well-intentioned, when families gather around and rejoice in love and memories of days of old, that’s also the time when you realize that those who used to be here are no longer present with us. The holidays can inadvertently serve as a painful reminder of those losses. It really is a time that we have to choose to be grateful and hold each other’s hand just a little longer.

A big sister holding her little brother's hand.

Christmas Chronicle #3: Be kind to yourself.

Sometimes, we don’t have anyone else to depend on to lift us up when we feel we need it most. We have to pick ourselves up by the bootstraps, but be kind to yourself during this process. In those low moments, I try to channel that energy into something more positive. Whether that means dragging myself outside to play with the children, or taking the time to read a new book. It is my responsibility to make it happen.

If this year hasn’t taught me anything, it has taught me to pursue all of my passions with more fervor. I am demanding peace and happiness in my life. I am demanding all the things that my heart desires. And in so doing, I am demanding more intentional effort of myself.

Who’s going to tell me that I can’t have everything I want when I’m working hard to get it?

It is something that sounds so simple. The concept is simple. It’s the doing part that makes all the difference. And if that is an idea that I want my children to implement in their lives, then I must lead by example.

Christmas Chronicle #4: Be intentional.

Now, here it is December, and I’m scrabbling to make sure “Christmas” happens. I didn’t buy a single item for Black Friday. I don’t even know what the hottest toys on the list are. Actually, I saw a million social media posts in uproar about the PS5, and I was at a total loss. I didn’t even know they made another Play Station.lol That’s just how out of the loop I have been.

Shopping with my children in tow… stopping by the cookie company for my favorite overpriced M&M cookies, picking out decorations for the inside and outside of our home… those are things that we are missing. For my family, it’s not about the gifts– never really has been. It’s about the time spent together “searching” for presents. I do miss those things. Now it’s about baking those cookies at home, and being a little more creative and thoughtful with the gift giving. More importantly, the true “reason for the season” is still in tact, but maybe the capacity in which it resonates is just a little deeper.

The Christmas Chronicle of 2020: Create your own holiday spirit

What is “holiday spirit” anyway? I tend to think of cold weather (or the appearance of it, since we live in New Orleans). The smell of cinnamon and hot chocolate. The beauty of fall leaves preparing to change into winter sticks. Presents? Sure. But it’s more about the intention– the effort put forth for someone you love, simply to put a smile on their face. And then the coup de grace? Actually being present with them. Eating too much, laughing too much, catching up with some family you don’t get to see as often. Or traveling with your loved ones for a destination Christmas.

As with anything in life, things change. Adulthood requires figuring out a way to navigate these changes as gracefully as we can.

We upgraded the TV and surround system in our living room. We have the big box of popcorn from Costco and the hot chocolate is always on deck! Now, our movie nights are even better! And if you know us, you know we love to watch movies in our household.

In addition to our homebound fun, we are taking the extra time for introspection and really working to better ourselves. As a result, we are healing ourselves, while making it a point to really be present for others who deserve our time and attention. There is a message in all of this.

This year has been… a process for me. Granted, we can acknowledge the pandemic played a major role, but the Coronavirus merely exacerbated some of the challenges I was already facing. Above all, I can honestly say that this year hasn’t been all bad. I’m choosing to be grateful for it all! Grateful to have had some people in my life who are no longer here and to those who are here, loving and supporting me. I am thankful for all the experiences and lessons learned. Lastly, I am thankful for each and every one of you.

Y’all, we are surviving this pandemic!

Now, I have to put on my creativity hat and coordinate with Santa about these Christmas gifts.

What are some of the things you and your loved ones are doing to get “in the spirit” this holiday season? Are there any lessons learned in 2020 that you are taking with you into 2021? What are some of the things you’re leaving behind?

From my family to yours, we wish you a very Merry Christmas and an abundance of blessings and prosperity in the New Year!

Photoseries captured and styled by The Coleture Visual Art Studio in New Orleans, LA.

Don’t be afraid to reach out to someone if you’re in need of a little extra support. And remember, be kind to yourself. Be encouraged.

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November 30, 2020November 28, 2021

Welcome to The Coleture Visual Art Studio

Years ago, I loved being in front of the camera. Nowadays, it’s a rarity that you’ll see me. I can’t say there’s some super deep thing to speak of, I simply enjoy creativity and being able to get that creativity from others. A few years back, I purchased a camera, with the goal of getting into photography. I think I have to credit my daughter for that obsession. I loved capturing her–my Mini Muse! Anyway, as life happened, I stepped away from the camera for a while, only to pick it back up once starting Jillian’s YouTube Channel and creating my blog. I think I mentioned before that most of the photographs I post were taken by me, and so I have decided to share more of that with you. Welcome to The Coleture Visual Art Studio.

Practice Makes Perfect

Pamela of Pamela Premiere Photography being photographed while photographing. — Pamela of Pamela Premiere Photography in New Orleans, Louisiana, photographed by The Coleture Visual Art Studio.

I take no ones profession for granted. I am always working to perfect all my crafts. Photography is no different. In order to reacclimate myself into the world as a photographer (along with my other hats), my friend and personal photographer, Pamela of Pamela Premiere Photography, and I decided to do a joint venture for the Christmas holidays. We offered holiday mini sessions for one day at a rate of $120, even including a Christmas Card design.

Flyer for Holiday mini photo sessions by The Coleture Visual Art Studio in New Orleans, Louisiana.

It was fun! And I’m happy we were able to add a little value to a few families during the holidays that didn’t break the bank for any of us. We will likely do another one again, soon, so be on the lookout for an announcement. In the meantime, please reach out to me if you’d like to book a session. We are only shooting outdoors, and all shoots will be socially distanced per COVID-19 restrictions.

The Coleture Visual Art Studio in Action

Little boy in mask and cape, holding his toy, while being photographed by The Coleture Visual Art Studio.

Stilling a moment so it lasts forever.
The Coleture Visual Art Studio

Thank you for tuning in. And we welcome you to book your next session with The Coleture Visual Art Studio.

May 20, 2020May 19, 2020

Friends. How Many of Us Have Them?

Little girl kissing her baby brother. — Instant Besties.

Today, my son told me that his sister is his best friend. Although initially taken aback because it isn’t Mommy, I am elated to know that he feels that way! I mean, she is the one who plays with him the most and can often understand him when others cannot. Their relationship is actually very cute. He wakes her up in the mornings to play, and they enjoy watching TV together. This little brother will also boldly stand up for his older sibling if when she gets yelled at, professing, “Mommy (or Daddy), Don’t yell at Jill!” (Only to, moments later, refuse to let her play with his toys, while feeling entitled to play with hers). By definition, Jillian is absolutely Timmy’s best friend. All this passion got me thinking about what a friend really looks like. Friends. How many of us have them? How many of us are them?

A friend is one attached to another by affection or esteem.
Merriam-Webster

I do think it’s worthy to note that my son says his Dad and I are also his best friends.

Valentine’s Day 2020: Just my mini-bestie and I stealing a moment at the zoo.

All meaningful relationships are, at their core, friendships. When delving into the topic of friendship, one must clearly define and acknowledge that there are different levels of a friend. I’m not speaking about those superficial relationships, like a work friend, which is a colleague or associate. I’m talking about those genuine, I’ve met/spent time with your family, including your parents, type of friend. I would venture to say there are three different levels of a friend: Friend, Good Friend, and Best Friend.

Friend: A friend is someone you have formed a serious bond with.

You love and care about this person, and this person is someone you can definitely call on in times of need– but those times are limited. Although the limitations may not be set by your friend, you may not feel as comfortable reaching out to them when you’re in need, as you would a good or best friend. Still, you share some common interests and you play well together. This person may also be a motivator and cheerleader for you.

Good Friend: You know this person extremely well, and you can call on this person for just about anything.

You guys most likely communicate often, whether in-person or otherwise. An accountability partner by nature, you can typically expect some genuine truths here. You can also hang out with this person on a different wavelength than a friend. You are simply closer to this person than the friend that you may not speak to as often or entrust with your deeper secrets.

Best Friend: This type of friend is basically family.

I call best friends mirrors, because the best friend is going to show you exactly who you are and how you come across. This is one of the most honest relationships in your life. You live to create memories with this person. Not only does this type of friend motivate you to do and be better, but this person is also the one willing to get in the trenches with you…AND give you a swift gut punch when you’re falling out of line. Weirdly, you may not speak to your best friend as often as you speak to a good friend, but when you do talk, you never miss a beat.

Do you give what you require of others?

Even understanding the varying levels of friendship, we still have to identify who those people are in our lives. It is healthy to evaluate the relationships in your lives, especially when you are reflecting on yourself. At the same token, we must be realistic and know that our friends are human beings and will not be without flaws (just as we are not).

Great Expectations

We sometimes not only want, but EXPECT certain things from people that is not in their character to give. What’s worse is when we expect people to do things that we ourselves don’t and wouldn’t do for them. We must be to our friends, who we want them to be to us. And at some point, if you feel that energy is not being properly reciprocated, that may be the sign that that particular relationship has run its course.

Brother and Sister filming for the YouTube Channel "Love, Jillian." — Sibling-friends filming together for Love, Jillian.

Having a friend is really helpful and healthy for your well-being. Even so, of all the intimate relationships you have in your life, one is at the top of the hierarchy. The most important relationship you can have in life is with the person you see in the mirror everyday. You must be a friend to yourself. Love on yourself, be honest, but be kind to yourself. If you work on your relationship with self, you will have better relationships with others. In other words, it takes a friend to have a friend.

Personally, I am very grateful for the relationship that my children have as friends. It reminds me of what friendship looks like, from an objective viewpoint. Let’s face it, we all get mad or unhappy with our friends every now and then, but that doesn’t mean you can’t move forward together in a healthy way. I watch my children fuss for a few minutes or get annoyed with one another often. But, they seem to display a bit of maturity and humility, while recognizing they love each other more than whatever pettiness they were upset about in the first place. Or sometimes, they just need naps. Either way, they work through it, get over it, and truly move on together. Because what’s life without your best friend to go through it with?

What does friendship mean to you? Do you find there are differences in the types of friendships you have in your life? Leave us comment below and let us know!

May 5, 2020December 18, 2020

Surviving Mother’s Day Motherless

“A mother’s love is a more tangible version of God’s love for us.”
Me

Most major holidays are a time of reverence and reflection. They all seem to have a central theme: thoughtfulness. Mother’s Day, a day set aside to honor and show appreciation for the mother(s) in your life, is no different. Oftentimes, the intense concentration on gift-giving overshadows the day’s actual intent—simply to say “thank you.” The closer we approach the date, the more we see people rush ordering gifts, with some struggling to decide what to buy for their moms. Some people are unable to purchase any gifts at all. Although that can be a difficult feeling, we have to remember that it is a blessing to have a living mother to celebrate in the first place.

A great-grandmother, grandmother, and grandchild. — Great-Grandmother, Grandmother, Granddaughter.

The simplest gesture for your mother on Mother’s Day will be big enough to warm ten thousand souls.

For many of us, Mother’s Day will look drastically different this year, compared to years passed. Still, there are some of us whose Mother’s Days have already forever changed. Many people find it very hard to celebrate a day where the woman they would honor is no longer physically present. Surviving Mother’s Day Motherless requires the support of loved ones.

Little Girl visiting her Grandmother's grave site on Mother's Day — Visiting her paternal grandmother’s resting place on Mother’s Day.

When a child loses its mother, it is the hope that her love will see him/her through survival.

My mother was diagnosed with cancer in 2015, and it was devastating. As if that wasn’t enough, my father, too, was diagnosed with cancer a few months later. We had to face some realities we didn’t want to, including the unimaginable– considering life without my parents.

Is there really any way to prepare someone to survive being motherless?

It is not lost on me how much of a blessing it is to still have both my parents. Which makes me even more sympathetic to those unable to fully embrace Mother’s Day as they once could. Remind those who have lost to reflect on all the love and lessons their moms left behind. Continue to celebrate the memories.

Surviving Mother's Day Motherless: My husband as an infant with his late mother.

Loved ones must really show up to support the grieving.

My father lost his mother when I was eight years old. I didn’t fully understand at the time, but I was watching my dad learn to live his life without his mother. He was different, never again to be the same man. My family stepped up in support of him and his loss. He always had a great relationship with my maternal grandmother, but their bond grew stronger.

Note: My paternal grandmother’s passing marked the first time I truly understood the feeling of loss. In fact, I wrote my very first poem, called “I’ll Fly Away,” shortly thereafter. Ever since then, I began to channel my feelings into my writing. And although my memories of my grandmother are fading, I am thankful for the little things I can remember, like her baking me my own little pound cakes and her homemade ice cream. But most importantly, I am eternally appreciative for the man she raised in my father.

Surviving Mother's Day Motherless:
My late paternal grandmother standing by a car. — My late paternal grandmother.

Anyway, I try to keep in mind ways in which we can strengthen and enrich the lives of those around us, especially those of us experiencing grief. So although we get excited about celebrating our mothers, let’s remember to make an effort of compassion to those who have lost theirs. Here are some supportive gift options you may want to consider:

Give the gift of flowers

Flowers can be a great option to gift someone who has lost their mother. You could gift her favorite flowers to her child. Or, you can place flowers on the late mother’s grave. If you choose to order flowers, try supporting a local florist in your area. Many are delivering right now.

Snow crab legs, Dungeness crab legs, and crawfish.

Find out her favorite meal or dessert

Cook one of her favorite dishes as a gift. (Or, if you’re anything like me, place an order). It could be a wonderful new memory created, by her loved ones being able to enjoy her favorite meal. It could also give the feeling of closeness to the departed mom on this Mother’s Day.

Write a sentiment

If you knew the mother personally, write something from the heart to be read aloud. If you did not know her, try writing out a quote and/or prayer for healing, peace, and sympathy. This is a gift that requires no money, only time, vulnerability, and love.

Creating fun, filtered memories with my little people.

Collect memories through pictures

Create a photo collage to help lift the spirits of those she left behind. Reminiscing via old pictures and sharing those memories with others, even virtually, can be very uplifting.

Two women having brunch. — Sisters brunching together.

Host a Mother’s Day Brunch

Organizing a Mother’s Day gathering, (keeping social distancing in mind or virtually), honors all the mothers in your life, both past and present. You can each speak on a memory of the deceased. Once everyone has spoken, release balloons, butterflies, or birds at a pre-selected location. This will ceremoniously commemorate her transition from this life into the next.

a plam tree — Palm Trees signify righteousness, freedom, and resurrection.

Plant a tree or garden in her honor

You can gift the grief-stricken with a plant or tree to be planted in their yard. Creating a physical designation would be the perfect way to have a nearby place to feel close to their mom and to communicate with her.

There is nothing we can do to take the pain away from the loss of a loved one, but we can try to ease it. The easiest way for the motherless to survive all major holidays, are directly derived from the support of family and friends. Remember these key ingredients on Mother’s Day and beyond: Vulnerability. Humility. Kindness. Thoughtfulness. You may one day find yourself on the other side of these gifting suggestions, praying for others to hold you at your weakest. If we do a better job of putting others first, the happiness we incite can be just as contagious as the Coronavirus. Let’s continue to uplift one another regularly. Happy Mother’s Day!

If you have some creative ideas on how to support those experiencing loss during Mother’s Day, or you just want to share a story, please comment down below.

April 25, 2020May 6, 2021

Timothy II: The Potty User Refuser

How do you encourage your toddler to use the potty?

Toddler boy dressed up in a suit, standing in a bathroom. — This photo was taken in a bathroom…where he did not use the potty. *insert eyeroll here*

Potty-training is not for the faint of heart, at least in my household. I can tell you now, I was not built for this. My son is the cutest little boy in the world. I find myself frequently looking over his baby pictures. It’s hard to believe three years have passed, since he completed our family. Now that he is 3, his personality is blooming. He is smart, and he is just soooo sweet! But how is it possible to be so sweet and so stubborn at the same time? Like, who raised you? (Don’t answer that). Introducing, Timothy II-the Potty User Refuser.

First, let me give you a little background on my son. He loves vehicles! Timmy talks a lot, but is quite bashful around others. He doesn’t like to take naps, but turn on a Marvel movie, and he will sit quietly to watch it, until he falls asleep. A honey bun AND a cup of milk is his “morning coffee,” and he refuses to begin his day without them.

Tall for his age, most people thought he was 4 when he was 2. He knows lots of words, shapes, and colors. He shows an interest in numbers and can actually count a little. Flashes of stubbornness present themselves when you ask him to answer questions about any of those things. Ask him to show you a letter, and this guy has an eyeroll only God can teach, IF he chooses to acknowledge you were speaking to him in the first place.

Back to potty-training.

So, we really tried to get ahead of this. Like other proactive parents, we tried getting him acclimated to sitting on the potty early on. And the few times that he used it unknowingly, we celebrated him. We were so proud of ourselves. Really thought we were just on top of things. If only you could’ve witnessed our excitement! Oh, but little did we know what was in store for us.

Baby being held up on potty. — Just made a year and he’s on the potty.

Soon, he understood that it was “pee pee” or “poo poo” in the potty because we would show it to him. We continued to cheer him on when he used it. Like all little people who receive praise, he ate it up! We just knew these were signs that he would be using the potty on his own in the near future. Can you hear the sound of us tooting our own horns? We also read books and watch (present tense) the potty-training episodes of some of his favorite shows and characters. Guess who could care less?

Smiling toddler. — On his Third Birthday, still not potty-trained, and living his best life.

Suddenly, every time we put him on the potty, he fought to get off– screaming and crying, arms flailing all over the place. As Timmy got a little older, we bought him underwear. Oh, and not just any old underwear, either. He has boxer briefs! He has vehicle underwear, Dinosaur underwear, he even has Spiderman underwear! I mean, no holds barred on choosing the most fashionable of boxers. None of it matters. Eventually, we stopped [attempting to] put him on the “big potty,” and started using his little potty. We tried making it as comfortable as possible.

The potty is in the living room, for goodness sake!

Next, came the bribes. You get your “bunny” (as he affectionately refers to honey buns), when you sit on the potty. Guys, he is steadfast in his lack of desire to use the potty. Timmy will sit on the potty, not use it, eat his “bunny,” and get up. Then, it could take an hour, but he will gladly pee and/or poo in his underwear. So long as he does not have to sit on the potty, he can take it. It’s downright astonishing (and disgusting)!

The other day, I put underwear on him. I asked him a million times if he needed to pee pee. He said no, each and every time. By the time I made him go sit on the potty, which wasn’t long after me asking, he had peed on one of my pillows in my bed. Whhhhyyyy? After throwing my pillow out, I began to “potty shame” him. I said that everyone in the house uses the potty, except him. And I started singing about him needing to use the potty. See below for results.

Crying toddler. — Can you hear the meltdown through these pictures?

Can you hear the meltdown through these pictures?

People often say that “boys are the hardest to potty-train,” but I wouldn’t know by comparing to my daughter… because she was no walk in the park. She was the type of kid who would have you sitting with her in the bathroom for an hour and a half, only to use it on the floor as soon as you take her off of it. This behavior was frequent, so we knew it was intentional. Timmy, on the other hand, doesn’t even try. He will wait as long as he can, until you give up on having him sit there and/or questioning him about it.

He will potty on the floor, on the stairs, on my favorite rug, in his bed—anywhere but the potty.

Though, he’s very aware of when he needs to use the potty, he will only use it when forced to sit on it. And he may tinkle a little and STILL pee on something else five minutes later. The crazy part is, he has the nerve to be embarrassed and sad after you ask him if he used it on himself. BUT. YOU. KNOW. EXACTLY. WHAT. YOU. ARE. DOING. Someone please make it make sense!

Toddler near the potty, but refusing to use it. — Look how close the potty is. Ask me where he peed.

Am I alone in this fight? Are there any other parents that have children like this?!

Since Timmy is mostly with me, I have been running lead on potty-training, and I am at my wit’s end! I asked family and friends for help and tips. My parents even stepped in to help when the kids stayed with them during the last few school breaks (prior to the Rona). There was no change.

In the meantime, I began searching online for potty-training solutions for stubborn kids, but didn’t find much we hadn’t tried. I did come across this hilarious article called, “My 3-Year-Old is Potty-Training. He Almost Ended Me.” It was eerily familiar, except his kid may be a bit more of a prankster than mine. At any rate, I could totally relate to the author’s experience.

You will never guess what happened next!

Finally, a miracle happened! I don’t know if my son knew I was writing this article about him or not, but what I can tell you is this: On the afternoon of Monday, April 20, 2020, Timothy II, the Potty User Refuser actually USED THE POTTY! He still won’t go in and use it without me, and he will only “pee” in the potty, but he has used it every day since then. Ladies and Gentlemen, we have a new potty user in our home. I’d like to now introudce you to Timothy II, Potty User.

Toddler boy looking up at the camera. — He kept unbuttoning his shirt one day in the French Quarter. So this is him while we shopped.lol #feelinghimself

Strolling down memory lane. #stillfeelinghimself

Any interesting potty-training moments or stories with the toddler in your life? Comment down below or shoot us a message about it.

We have not been compensated for any products mentioned in this article. If you are interested in Timothy II representing your product, brand, or work, please contact us here or email Jolandra@TheColeture.com.

March 25, 2020March 25, 2020

20 of the Most Hilarious Coronavirus Memes I Could Find

The Coronavirus has taken over life as we know it. Every time you turn on the TV, or social media, we are inundated with COVID-19 talk. Stores are closed, restaurants are pickup or delivery only, and in New Orleans, curfew is at 5pm. With the constant reminder of the presence of COVID-19, even as we are all on house arrest, it’s simply a conversation you cannot escape.

Well, you know how the old saying goes: If you can’t beat them, join them.

The internet, or “innanet” as it’s more affectionately known, proves to be unrivaled in the comedic department. We may not have the actual cure for the Coronavirus yet, but I am happy to fulfill a prescription of laughter. Here are 20 of the most hilarious Coronavirus memes I could find, to help you get through your day.

The Quarantine Memes

Happy Birthday, anyway, March and April Babies!

Coronavirus Memes — Okay, this last one almost took me out.

Although there are things that we do need to pay attention to, the amount of coverage on COVID-19 is relentless. The nonstop articles, breaking news, and general conversations about the Coronavirus can become triggers for those of us who may suffer from more fragile mental states. Let’s remember that our loved ones who may suffer from depression, PTSD, anxiety and other mental sensitivities could use a little more compassion right now.

Share a meme, share a smile.

You may not be able to give out hugs, but an encouraging text or an unexpected letter in the mail can go a long way. There are also uplifting tips found in the Powerbank section of The Coleture. Whatever you choose to do, be kind and be considerate. Let’s make the most of our current state of affairs, and let’s do it with a little laughter. Be healthy and stay safe.

What’s your Quarantine Super Power?

If you need more information on the Coronavirus, please be sure you are getting it from trusted news sources, such as The CDC.

March 23, 2020May 8, 2020

8 Ways to Support the Self-Employed Persons in Your Life

Real Estate Professional's Business Card. — If you know anyone in New Orleans looking to buy or sell property, please send them my way.

The Self-Employed Need Your Support, Too.

Have you ever started a business from scratch? And when I say scratch, I mean with little to no startup money? You no longer make the type of money you used to make, because income is inconsistent and, often, commission-only. Your actual work hours are so blurred together that you don’t even know how many hours you work per week. And, finally, when you do get a check, that money is already accounted for. Add to that the current global state of affairs, and you realize this is the time to come up with ways you can support the self-employed persons in your life.

“I’m convinced that about half of what separates the successful entrepreneurs from the non-successful ones is pure perseverance.” – Steve Jobs

According to Investopedia, “a business owner is someone who owns a company but does not work with the day-to-day operation of the company.” Conversely, someone who is self-employed owns the business and works at the business as sole proprietor or primary employee.

On average, it takes two to three years before a business owner becomes profitable.

With all the craziness happening in the world right now, if the self-employed person in your life never needed help before, they probably will in the near future. Here are 8 tips to boost business for your self-employed, entrepreneurial friends during this Coronavirus season and beyond:

If you are not familiar with the business, ask questions to learn more. This small gesture shows your friend that you are truly interested in what they have going on. Cost: Free
If you know someone else who could benefit from your friend’s services, share that contact and information willingly. Referrals are everything in business. Cost: Free
If your business owner friend makes a post, share that post, like it, and comment on it. Digitally, promotion-turned-leads-turned-sales are traffic-driven. Again, this is a small (t)ask that is easy-to-do and can help your friend’s business tremendously. Cost: Less than five minutes of the time you are already spending online.
If you are observing your business owner friends during a tough period, offer support in the form of constructive feedforward. Cost: Prayers and/or words of encouragement.
Leave reviews publicly to highlight some of the best features of your self-employed person’s products and services. Cost: Free
Offer to assist your friend with some of his/her operational tasks when you have down time. Printing and stapling materials, or organizing digital files and folders won’t seem like much, but could save the owner money and time. Cost: Time
Create a business care package. Put together a box that has tape, ink pens, envelopes, stamps, and/or something more specific to their particular business needs. The smallest purchases can help. This shows the business owner in your life that you believe in them, you support them, and you are willing to get in there and help them succeed. Cost: Whatever you have in your heart to give. (Note: the Dollar Tree sells a number of office supplies and other products that you can purchase in support).
Lastly, check back here to view articles on some self-employed businesspersons, who you may not have known you needed in your life. Cost: Visit The Coleture often for updates.

“You don’t build a business, you build people, then people build the business.”
-Zig Ziglar

Globally, we are experiencing a crisis that is unprecedented in a number of ways. Some businesses may fold from this, despite the fact that they could have otherwise been very profitable. Now is the time for us to band together as a human race. Support one another as best you can. Stay safe and be well!

February 27, 2020May 8, 2020

Just Jillian.

For quite some time, my daughter has expressed an interest in entertainment. I would say it probably started around age 4 when she asked for a YouTube Channel. I mean, she’s always had a large personality, but her dad and I were like: No! Fast forward four years later, and we learn that some kid has made $26 million via his YouTube Channel last year alone. So now, we are trying to figure out what to name hers. The Jillian Show? Just Jillian?

Since the moment she entered this world, my struggle to Quit Mommying Around became apparent. (Pun intended). I photographed Jillian so much, she was my first real work of art. I love FASHION, so it was my pleasure to dress my Mini-Me accordingly. She didn’t have a lot of hair, so big bows and hats were my go-to, but honey, she was (and still is) fabulous! It was then that I noticed how capable she was in front of the camera.

She was a natural!

What it looks like when your mother loves you, pink, bows, and leopard print.

But I have to be honest. I think most parents believe their children are beautiful and that they are super smart and talented. Although I always saw potential for her entering the modeling industry, I never once actively pursued it. I can’t tell you why, really. I spent years in the fashion industry, and I was never able to break through in the way I truly wish I could’ve. Perhaps, I was subconsciously projecting my “failures” onto her. I’m not wholly sure, but I do love to take her picture, and I do believe everyone should bask in the joy and personality that is Jillian.

Anyway, a couple of months ago, while on a business trip, her dad called to inform us of an audition he found out about locally. I looked into it and decided to give it a shot. I reached out to the company putting on the audition, and they responded with interest. They sent some lines for her to learn and gave us an audition date/time. I delivered this information to Jillian almost immediately.

After giving Jillian the lines, she learned them in about 15 minutes.

I must admit, I was a bit shocked that she learned her lines so fast. Not that I didn’t think she was clever enough, but as intelligent as Jillian is, she has a tendency to procrastinate. She can also be very lazy. It’s like she’s a teenager at 8! Once I saw she had the propensity to learn lines quickly and accurately, I knew that she was truly interested in acting. And by the way she embodied the words, it was also clear that she has real talent.

From that moment forward, I made a commitment to sincerely help her achieve this goal. I think she may be built for entertainment. We forged ahead to that audition. And guess what guys: She nailed it!

On the set of her first paid acting job. As always, styled by Mommy.

We were all so proud of her and so excited at the possibilities! But those possibilities quickly turned into disappointment when we learned that the “audition holders” actually wanted us to pay thousands of dollars that day to further her career. (Please insert eye roll here). In other words, that was a hard “no.” And although she was a little down about it, I explained to Jillian that a “no” means a lot of things, but it definitely does not mean that you failed or that you have to give up on your dreams.

I want her to know rejection early, so she is able to successfully cope and navigate “no’s” in the future.

But we had now born witness to the star that she truly is. We recognized that she should really keep moving forward in pursuit of acting. So I begin to reach out to a few people, including a colleague who had recently done some work in a Ben Affleck movie being shot in New Orleans. He gave me some information to look into, and the next thing you know, she and I both became background actors.

Let the resume building begin!

Hanging out on the set of Claws while Jillian was filming.

I thought it was a great opportunity! She got the chance to see and experience firsthand how NOT glamorous the filmmaking process can be. The long hours, the repeating of scenes over and over again… I welcomed that because I wanted to know if her interest would fade or if she was still excited to participate. Let me just tell you now, she was the total opposite of discouraged.

With such an outgoing personality and wit, I have no doubt that Jillian will succeed at whatever she puts her mind to. Jillian is also very ambitious. We have been discussing some other business ideas, with at least one we hope to release some time next year. She also does a yearly lemonade stand, called “Jillian’s E-Z P-Z Lemon Squee-Z.” If you’re ever in New Orleans the first weekend of May, look for her somewhere on Carrollton near Oak St. She creates her own sales pitches and enjoys selling and talking to people. There’s so much more you can expect to see from this young lady. Stay tuned. The best is yet to come!

Do you have a young child interested in or involved in entertainment? If so, what has been your overall experience? Please share your thoughts and opinions in the comments.

If you have any interest in working with Jillian in film, print, or other forms of media, please message me here or email JolandraCole@gmail.com and title the email, “booking.”

Please Subscribe, Like, and Share Jillian’s new YouTube Channel, called “Love, Jillian.”

December 29, 2019May 8, 2020

Let’s Talk Real Estate: It’s Easier to Buy Than You Think

It’s easier to purchase property than you may think. Start with one foot in front of the other. Now, go forth and be great! But seriously, don’t be afraid to “go for it.”

If you can afford to pay rent, you can afford to buy…because you are already paying someone else’s mortgage.

If you’re a renter, what’s stopping you from taking the plunge? For many people, the idea of purchasing a home proves overwhelming. Take a look at 5 steps that can ease your concerns and help you successfully get into your own home.

Phase 1: Let’s Talk Credit.

Don’t be afraid to check your scores! You get one free credit report per year from The Annual Credit Report. Use it! See what’s on there. Be prepared to print out your results, so that you have the opportunity to comb through all that information. (Remember you can only view it once for free).

Be sure to dispute all incorrect information. Try to contact the companies of any negative items recently added, to see if you can either settle the debt or set up a payment arrangement. If any allow you to make a payment arrangement, go the next step by asking them to remove the debt negatively from your credit report, to reflect that you are actively making payments.

Note: Student loans and the IRS will ALWAYS get their money. If you owe them (or any other government entity), make a payment plan!

Next, check with your bank to see if they offer free credit score monitoring. If not, sign up for Credit Karma. It is totally free. Credit Karma provides scores based off data from TransUnion and Equifax. You can also dispute discrepancies directly from the site. Credit Karma offers a few different tools that can assist you in your credit repairing journey. You don’t NEED to pay a credit repair service to help you “fix” your credit, but of course, you can if you so choose. Just know that you are capable of doing the work yourself…for free.

Phase 2: Let’s Talk Debt.

Anything that you spend money on is considered debt—your regular household bills, shopping, travel, gasoline.

Check your spending. The banks most certainly will.

Typically, they will go back the past 6 months of your statements when you first apply for the loan. Right before the loan is set to close, they will run your credit and check your bank statements again. (So no major purchases)! Debt-to-Income (DTI) is extremely important, when it comes to securing a loan. You can make “good money,” but if you spend most of it, you will likely not be approved for the amount you may really want. Lenders could consider you too high of a risk.

Having additional sources of income can offset the “negative” of spending.

No matter who you are or what you do, if you don’t have it now, work towards having at least one other stream of income. Trust me. Rainy days will come…sometimes followed by black ice, hailstorms, earthquakes and hurricanes. Be as prepared as possible.

Phase 3: Let’s Talk Education.

Now that you’ve analyzed your financials, take a First-Time Homebuyers Class. This course, typically one you will have to pay for, can be completed in a day, or over the course of a few days. (There may be some places that offer the class for free, so check with your real estate agent).

Taking classes geared towards homeownership can be beneficial in a number of ways, including providing you with the most up-to-date home-buying grants or financial assistance programs that may exist in your area.

Phase 4: Let’s Talk Loans.

Just because you have a bank account does not mean you should automatically apply for a home loan with that institution.

If you’ve already chosen your real estate agent, ask them for some suggestions on lenders. Do some homework. Whether your agent referes you, or you find some lenders on your own, reach out to a few different lenders. I would suggest speaking with a major bank, as well as some local institutions. Ask several questions that will help you determine which lender is right for you.

Get pre-qualified for a bank loan before you begin house hunting with your realtor.

Even if you have an agent ready to work for you, it is best that you don’t begin shopping/searching until you at least know about how much you can afford. A pre-qualification is basically where you have a conversation with a lender and they ask you a few questions to determine what you would likely be able to afford. Because the information they are asking for is general, this process should not affect your credit score in any way. You should also not be providing super sensitive information, such as your social security number, during this conversation.

Phase 5: The Final Piece to the Puzzle

In the midst of all of this, find your real estate agent. (Hello, Metro New Orleans and Metro Atlanta Home Shoppers)! Your agent doesn’t have to have a million years of experience, but you do want someone who is knowledgeable, willing to guide you in the right direction, as well as clearly communicative. Communication and comprehension is key in any type of relationship, in order for success.

Follow these tips, and hopefully, you will be moving into your new home in at least 30 days. Drop a comment below to tell us about your experience(s) or if you have any questions. As always, thanks for reading. Feel free to share for #thecoleture!

I have not been compensated for any of the linked articles in this post. All information above comes strictly from my experiences/opinion.

July 6, 2019May 8, 2020

The Catch 22 That is Gentrification

A man working on a new construction home.

Don’t hate the player, hate the game.

“Gentrification is the process of repairing and rebuilding homes and businesses in a deteriorating area (such as an urban neighborhood) accompanied by an influx of middle-class or affluent people and that often results in the displacement of earlier, usually poorer residents.”
Merriam-Webster

Raise your hand if you would not like to live and raise your family in a nice area. Now, replace the word “nice” in that sentence with “gentrified.” Raise your hand if you would not like to live and raise your family in an established or gentrified area. Anyone who didn’t raise their hands is probably lying (or didn’t because you think no one can see you). I cannot imagine a single soul who wants to live and raise his or her family in poverty. Can you? The Catch 22 That is Gentrification.

So what is really the problem here? Let’s start with properties that are deserted and/or in extremely poor conditions. Who owns those? Who is responsible for cleaning those up? If there is an uninhabitable property in your area and nothing is done about it, that property more than likely becomes a space for squatters and drug users. When someone finally comes along to purchase the abandoned property and cleans it up, why then are we mad? I mean, if you could do it, wouldn’t you?

Why are we not mad at those who abandoned the property in the first place? Or why are we not mad at the city for not cleaning up the drug infestation we all know exists there?

I think once you begin to delve deeper into the conversation of gentrification, you realize that the problem isn’t “gentrification” alone. Sure, sometimes people come in and want to change the entire dynamic of an area. (Have you heard about the proposal from some French Quarter New Orleans residents who want the city to enlist “entertainment hours” in that area? Can you imagine that? Why move to the French Quarter in the first place? You knew what that area was all about before you bought there. Side Note: If you are interested in selling or buying in the French Quarter [or anywhere else in Metro New Orleans], I am more than happy to assist you in that transaction)!

But someone(s) NEEDS to fix these rotting and neglected houses and buildings that become “drug houses” and/or unsafe physically and environmentally. The influx of new construction and renovations also begets new businesses and amenities in the area, which by default, creates more jobs.

In the meantime, we have to address those other lingering issues. Why is the cost of living steadily increasing, but the wages remain the same?

Is it only a nicer home that’s keeping me from staying in this area, or is it that I’m making the same amount of money on my job that I was making five years ago and that’s like taking a pay cut each year?

Why is the education system so poor? What about the fact that the price of oil affects the pricing for everything else? Milk is expensive. Grocery shopping is expensive. Clothes are expensive. If you live in Orleans Parish, property taxes are higher, flood insurance can be more expensive, car insurance is more expensive, and minimum wage is still below $8/hr. Can someone please help me justify why daycare can cost over $1000/month for a two-year-old?

I’m not sure if this problem has an easy answer or fix. I do think the responsibility of ensuring that all of the “original” residents are not pushed out by newcomers is shared. More available affordable housing is necessary, but we also have to be realistic about what “affordable” is. I recently read an article written by Kaylee Poche for the New Orleans Advocate that states, “…in order to afford a “modest” two-bedroom rental in the New Orleans-Metairie area without spending more than 30 percent of income on housing costs, a person would have to make $19.38 an hour, up slightly from a housing wage of $19.15 in 2018.” Here’s the link to that article: https://www.theadvocate.com/gambit/new_orleans/news/the_latest/article_1c5d2d02-92d9-11e9-8fb2-4bb5df836864.html

Using gentrification as the scapegoat to any city’s housing problems is inaccurate. We want our neighborhoods to look better. As a property owner, we want our values to increase. We want less crime, better schools—an overall better quality of life. So how can we have all of this and the rental rates/home prices not skyrocket? How can we all “afford” to be safe and smart?

Assuming you do not currently, if you could afford to live in a gentrified area, would you? Why or why not? What are you doing to clean up your community? What are your elected officials doing? Please leave your comments below.